Buddhism on Death & Dying Part 4: Practices for the Deceased

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Dakini Day Chod

With Pema Khandro

January 20, 2020
Chod Meditation in Charlottesville. Practice the Laughter of the Dakinis once a month on Dakini Day. A small group that meets with Pema Khandro at the Stupa or at Khandro Ling in Charlottesville, VA. If you are interested, send us your email and phone number to info@buddhistyogis.org and we will put you on the list to get emails or texts for time, date, and location. Free.
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Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

January 22, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Ngakpa Seminary, Level 1

With Pema Khandro

January 22, 2020
The Ngakpa Training offers in-depth study of Vajrayana Buddhism. The five year curriculum focuses on a study of Vajrayana Buddhist history, philosophy and practice, focusing on the Inner Tantras of the Nyingma Tradition, also known as MahaYoga, AnuYoga and Dzogchen. These studies alternate with one on one dialogues with the Lama in phone classes, private […]
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Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

January 22, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Dakini Day Chod

With Pema Khandro

February 18, 2020
Chod Meditation in Charlottesville. Practice the Laughter of the Dakinis once a month on Dakini Day. A small group that meets with Pema Khandro at the Stupa or at Khandro Ling in Charlottesville, VA. If you are interested, send us your email and phone number to info@buddhistyogis.org and we will put you on the list to get emails or texts for time, date, and location. Free.
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Vajrakilaya Practice to Remove Obstacles

With Janak Kimmel

February 21, 2020
Doors will close at 6pm, no further admittance at that time. From 6-9pm this will be a closed retreat, to focus on powerful Vajrakilaya obstacle removing energy. By donation. All proceeds to benefit Dakini Mountain Pre-registration required, email Janak.Buddhist.Yogis@gmail.com
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Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

February 26, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Dakini Day Chod

With Pema Khandro

March 18, 2020
Chod Meditation in Charlottesville. Practice the Laughter of the Dakinis once a month on Dakini Day. A small group that meets with Pema Khandro at the Stupa or at Khandro Ling in Charlottesville, VA. If you are interested, send us your email and phone number to info@buddhistyogis.org and we will put you on the list to get emails or texts for time, date, and location. Free.
Register Now

Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

March 25, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Dakini Day Chod

With Pema Khandro

April 17, 2020
Chod Meditation in Charlottesville. Practice the Laughter of the Dakinis once a month on Dakini Day. A small group that meets with Pema Khandro at the Stupa or at Khandro Ling in Charlottesville, VA. If you are interested, send us your email and phone number to info@buddhistyogis.org and we will put you on the list to get emails or texts for time, date, and location. Free.
Register Now

Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

April 22, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

May 27, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

June 24, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

July 22, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

August 26, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

September 23, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

October 28, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

November 25, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Open Teaching Webcast

With Pema Khandro

December 23, 2020
A 30 minute guided meditation and online teaching with Pema Khandro. Free and open to the public. Click Here to Register What is Dakini Day? The Dakini (known in Tibetan as Khandro) is the principle of spacious dynamic wisdom in Tibetan Buddhism. This is a monthly class to support your meditation practice and meet the […]

Practices for the Deceased

After the death Vajrasattva mantras can be done for the deceased.

If possible, Lamas can be asked to perform the rituals such as Shitro practices for the deceased. This can be done immediately after someone dies but Buddhists also continue this for a forty-nine day period after the death.

Family and friends can continue say prayers every day during that period for the deceased.

Tibetan Buddhism understands the post-death state as being a perilous one for many people since it is shocking and confusing to have died. Without the stability of the physical body, the body of mind is all that is left, with all its habits which are now amplified. So if there is the habit of fear or anger those states would dominate. This is why training the mind during one’s life is important. This is also why Tibetan Buddhists believe that our loved ones can offer great help. By offering prayers, mantras and other practices at this time, it helps to comfort and guide the deceased through their passing, through the post-death state, into a state of greater peace and clarity. The Vajrasattva mantra can be recited every day for forty-nine days after the person has died.

Buddhist tradition also has the family of the loved also make charitable donations, offerings of generosity in the name of the deceased to help accumulate positive momentum, “merit’ for the deceased to help them in their transition and future lives. Also, practically speaking, such actions of generosity bring a positive experience into the grieving period which can help the family in their healing process.

The most important thing is at least, whatever actions supports loving compassion and harmony at this time. Or ideally to have practices and prayers be done to help generate states of love, compassion, confidence and peace.

Here is a link to arrange for a Buddhist Lama to do the death rites for your loved ones.

Here are the Links to the series Below.

Also related- the prayer we read to those dying. Although it requires some training and transmission, reading about it can be beneficial to help understand what important learning could happen during the period before death.

Pema Khandro
Pema Khandro is a Tibetan Buddhist scholar, humanitarian, and teacher in the rare lineage of Tibet’s Buddhist Yogis. Raised in the west, ordained in the Nyingma lineage, enthroned as a tulku and trained as an academic, Pema Khandro presents both a traditional perspective and a modern voice. Read more at: https://www.pemakhandro.org/pema-khandro-extended-biography/