Every person wants to be loved for “who they are,” what if we also loved the objects of desire in this way? What if we enjoyed things for what they really are; lacking any security or confirmation, temporary and ineffable. That is the experience known as “emptiness,” (Tib. tong pa nyid; Skt. shunyata). Its the wisdom that comes from letting things be what they are, recognizing that they are empty of all the things we project on to it. The object of our desire won’t give us lasting happiness or make us a good person or give us security. It won’t define us or offer us the answer. However, it has other things to offer – simple delight, a moment of enjoyment. We can enjoy phenomena as is. It is connected to knowing our innate nature as already complete because when we aren’t looking for things to tell us who we are, to fill some hole in us, then we can enjoy those things more fully and more simply. We can relax and enjoy things for what they are.
~ Pema Khandro